I wanna blog about something that I think is really important.
......As I said earlier, we are all different. Different is what makes us who we are. Some people put differences aside, and some people don't. There is a boundary that needs to be made, though. It's when one's differences has a major role of that persons life. Includes religion/beliefs, background, standards, and living style.This is where a problem usually occurs in the Mix-Match of a friendship.
Let's start with religion....
Speaking from experience, I lost an "adult" friend due to our different religion reviews. Now, I'm not religious, but I am very spiritual. Like I said on my website "I believe In God, myself, my dreams, and Karma. I'll leave it at that, and you should too." It's okay to ask someone what their beliefs are, but for the both of you be careful what you say and do, relevantly back to your religion/beliefs. It can seriously screw up the friendship or cause a huge fight. In other words, if you support gays and your friend doesn't, because of your belief system, just don't bring it up that topic in person, facebook, or twitter. Do and talk about things that don't really involve a belief system. I hope this makes sense to you.
Moving onto background, standards, and living style (they all kind of are on the same line)....
I'm just gonna be forward with everyone. I'm speaking from experience with this entire blog. Every body was raised differently, every body comes from some place different, and some people leave their old background behind and make a new one. I have a friend whose standards are so different than mine, that it would drive me NUTS. It was so frustrating. First of all, I can't have a friend who doesn't have any respect for themselves. I will try to put up with it as long as I can, but eventually the friendship, in this situation, will turn into a sinking-ship. How can anyone love, accept, or respect you if you don't do that for yourself? The background part is coming in.... Everyone has gone through something different that makes them who they are. If you came out of a really bad background and it rubbed off on you to where you don't respect others AND yourself, it's going to be a really rough, lonely road for you. Now if you have a friend that is like that, try to help them out somewhat. Pull them away from that dark cloud above their head, lead them to a happy path where they can be positive and enjoy life. If they are making the wrong choices, illegally or harmful to their body, steer them away. You can only lead a horse to the pond, but you can't make it drink. If your horse ends up not drinking, that's the end. It's a lost cause. Your friend has to be willing to help themselves too. If it was me in that situation, I'd cut the ropes with this person, because I can't handle a person like that. You need to be around positive people, and people that make you feel good. It would KILL ME emotionally to just keep watching my friend run their life like this, and having them just do bad choices that add more negativity. If they asked "what happened to you, why did you stop talking or seeing me so often" just say "I tried to be the best of a friend I could be. I tried helping you, I was there for you, but you didn't do anything to help yourself, you didn't take my advice (blah, blah, blah)". Let it come from your heart in the most rational way you can.
On the other hand, if your friend is in that same situation, but decides to walk away from the negativity and move on by doing positive things, that's great! Praise your friend for them making a good choice, stay by their side. Ya know, reward them in some way. They will need that. This is the type of situation where one would most likely keep the friendship.
There are many other ways I can brake down the background, standard, and life style part, but it would take like the whole day for me to explain those. *smiley face* If you have any questions or need advice on friendship, feel free to ask. I'm here if you need me, and I'm great with helping people out. It's in my blood.
Remember: You receive only what you handed out. That goes for your friends too. *wink*
Creatively Speaking,
